Wednesday, 29 June 2016

Be lovely to yourself

We all know the simple rule of treating others how you would like to be treated, and I don't think anyone can dispute it as being a solid piece of advice to live by. However, I think in the society we live in today, the reverse is slightly more applicable. Perhaps we ought to treat ourselves how we would treat other people.

People nowadays are so ready to be lovely to the people around them. We are all so open to encouraging and uplifting our friends and colleagues, which is absolutely wonderful. If we are aware of someone hurting or having a tough time, we let them know that we are here for them if they need someone. And I just think it's so wonderful that there are so many communities that really look out for eachother, and it's so lovely to see that on social media. You don't have to look far on twitter to find a tight knit group of fangirls or bloggers who are always spreading positivity and love within their group.

But how often do we extend that love and compassion to ourselves?

We live in a society where we are taught to love others, and hate ourselves. If you're not sure what I mean by this, or disagree with me at this point, just bear with me for a moment and think about it. Even something as simple as compliments shows this aspect of society so clearly; we freely give out compliments to uplift each other, but as soon as we receive a compliment it's all "Oh no, not me" or "Have you seen yourself?". Most people can't even accept a simple compliment- me included.

Naturally, we are our own worst critics and are often so quick to jump at any imperfections. It's a battle, because we know ourselves so well- every single inch of skin and every dimple and freckle... so of course we're going to be able to pick out about a million different imperfections that the rest of the world probably doesn't even notice. We forget that we too are human, and worth loving.

We would never in a million years even dream of talking to our best friend the way that you talk to yourself, picking out every minor flaw and examining your mental and physical self so harshly. So why are we so mean to ourselves?

Today, I want to encourage yourself to extend a little self love to yourself. Tell yourself you're beautiful, intelligent, and worthy. You're enough. Yes, you have faults, but your faults don't define you.

You have a decision to make; be your own harshest critic, or your own biggest cheerleader.


  1. I love your article. It's so true. Why are we taught to love others and hate ourselves? I'm so happy you shed some light on the problem! Love xx

    1. Thank you Valerie!I hope you will be able to show yourself a bit of TLC