Is there a party? Am I invited?
It's such a pity No one adores me yet
So make me up in a shade that fits me
Tell me love oh "Am I pretty?"
Today, one of my closest friends asked me if I thought he was fat, or even ugly. He isn't; not in the slightest little bit. In my response, I told him that, and that although his body has imperfections and faults, it certainly isn't fat, and his imperfections are beautiful, not ugly.
He's not the only one to have come out with a comment like that, though- and that's why I am sitting here, speed typing this post when I'm actually kinda supposed to be studying... oh well.
What I mean is, I've had a lot of people ask me what I thought about their body. Things like "Does this dress make me look fat?", and "Do you think I need to tone my belly?" count too. And I've been on the other side too, looking town at my stomach and only seeing rolling fat. I think everyone is really good at spotting imperfections in themselves, and weight and fatness is an 'imperfection' which all of us see in ourselves once in a while- no matter how slim you might be.
Honestly though, I can tell you right now, that no matter what you see when you look at your belly, thighs, or any other part of your body... you are gorgeous. And whether you're super thin or bigger than most; you can always gain weight. You can always lose weigh. Or you could even stay the same forever.
If you really think that changing your body will make you truly happy, then you have the power to change it. Nothing and nobody will stop you, as long as you stay healthy. It's completely up to you... but just make sure you are certain it will make you happy. And if it does, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people might look down at you, and say that you shouldn't change, and that it won't make you any happier with yourself, but they don't know you- you do. You know deep inside what works for you; and just because something didn't work for them, doesn't mean it will work for you.
There's a flipside to that, though. Just because something works for someone, doesn't mean that it will work for you. Meaning, just because you know someone who changed their outward appearance, and started loving themselves more, doesn't mean that if you do the exact same thing that it will have the same effect on you. You could end up doing all that work, only to look at yourself in the mirror, still spotting more and more imperfections.
It's up to you what you do with your body, but whatever you do, make sure that you do it for yourself. Don't ever change anything about yourself to gain the approval of others. There will always be someone who sees you as imperfect.
But more importantly, there will always be someone who sees you as beautifully imperfect.
There's beauty and grace in the flaws of your face
All candor and style in the crook of your smile