Tuesday, 5 April 2016

Am I pretty?

Am I pretty? Do people like me yet?
Is there a party? Am I invited?
It's such a pity No one adores me yet
So make me up in a shade that fits me
Tell me love oh "Am I pretty?"

Today, one of my closest friends asked me if I thought he was fat, or even ugly. He isn't; not in the slightest little bit. In my response, I told him that, and that although his body has imperfections and faults, it certainly isn't fat, and his imperfections are beautiful, not ugly.

He's not the only one to have come out with a comment like that, though- and that's why I am sitting here, speed typing this post when I'm actually kinda supposed to be studying... oh well. 

What I mean is, I've had a lot of people ask me what I thought about their body. Things like "Does this dress make me look fat?", and "Do you think I need to tone my belly?" count too. And I've been on the other side too, looking town at my stomach and only seeing rolling fat. I think everyone is really good at spotting imperfections in themselves, and weight and fatness is an 'imperfection' which all of us see in ourselves once in a while- no matter how slim you might be.

Honestly though, I can tell you right now, that no matter what you see when you look at your belly, thighs, or any other part of your body... you are gorgeous. And whether you're super thin or bigger than most; you can always gain weight. You can always lose weigh. Or you could even stay the same forever. 

If you really think that changing your body will make you truly happy, then you have the power to change it. Nothing and nobody will stop you, as long as you stay healthy. It's completely up to you... but just make sure you are certain it will make you happy. And if it does, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people might look down at you, and say that you shouldn't change, and that it won't make you any happier with yourself, but they don't know you- you do. You know deep inside what works for you; and just because something didn't work for them, doesn't mean it will work for you.

There's a flipside to that, though. Just because something works for someone, doesn't mean that it will work for you. Meaning, just because you know someone who changed their outward appearance, and started loving themselves more, doesn't mean that if you do the exact same thing that it will have the same effect on you. You could end up doing all that work, only to look at yourself in the mirror, still spotting more and more imperfections.

It's up to you what you do with your body, but whatever you do, make sure that you do it for yourself. Don't ever change anything about yourself to gain the approval of others. There will always be someone who sees you as imperfect.

But more importantly, there will always be someone who sees you as beautifully imperfect.

There's beauty and grace in the flaws of your face
All candor and style in the crook of your smile


  1. This is such a beautiful body positivity post, and it was so lovely to read! I love your parting line - "there will always be someone who sees you as beautifully imperfect" - as it's so true. Beauty is a subjective thing, and each person will find different things attractive. I'm finding it really difficult to put into words, but my boyfriend and I were talking about it yesterday. You summed it up perfectly, though! Thank you again for writing this beautiful, uplifting post :D x

    1. Dottie, thank you so much- that truly means the world to me! I think that because -apart from the whole self criticism 'trend'- people don't really talk enough about self image in a positive way, which makes it more difficult, because it doesn't come naturally! Maybe, by opening up the subject with the people around you (like you have done with your boyfriend) we will be able to encourage and uplift eachother, all while also ingraining positivity into our culture! x

    2. Aw, you're very welcome! Yes, I definitely think we need to open up more about positive self image, and to start putting an end to the awful trend of hating oneself! I hope you don't mind, but you've inspired me to write my own post regarding this topic? It should be up soon :) x

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