It is becoming increasingly important in this day and age that we are able to be self-sustainable, and a huge part of that is being able to pull yourself through the rough patches of life. Becoming your own hero doesn't mean that you have to put on a magic superhero cape, it just means that you, as an ordinary human being, can save yourself from whatever's going on in your life.
Realisation 1: The stars can only shine in the dark
"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is only revealed if they shine from within"
Some of the most amazing, inspirational stories come from the darkest of places, and realising that successful people didn't get to where they are easily is a crucial part of becoming your own hero. I struggled with a lot of things in 2014, from extreme exam stress, to chronic tension headaches and friendship tensions, to almost giving up on life completely. But here I am, after going through all that, and I have the ability to stand here today, and tell you that I am way, way, way stronger than I was because of it.
Realisation 2: You have the right to endure
"You have the right to endure, and that is something struggle can never take away from you"
Ever been told not to give up? Well it can seem a bit phoney; here you are going through this really tough situation, and you're almost at the end of yourself, and all you get is a "Don't give up, it'll get better soon". You think I'd be finding life so tough if that was true?! Ugh.
But it is true, and that is the amazing beauty of life. Sometimes there is a lot of pain in our journey, but there is also always a lot of beauty. We need to keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we're hurting, because we'll never know what is waiting for us around the bend until we go there.
Realisation 3: A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset
"When you wake up, take a second to think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy. The moment you start acting like life is a blessing, I assure you it will start feeling like one. Time spent appreciating is time worth living"
Life is so beautiful, and there is so much in the world to be happy about. A beautiful mindset begins with appreciating every single little detail, like the jar of nutella you bought on your way home from work, or the day you spend with your boyfriend snuggling in front of the TV, or the incredible memories you have from your childhood. The energy of a child as they run around the room, the smell of a cinnamon scented candle, the 5 new comments you got on your blog... there's so much in the world to be happy about, you just need to open your mind to the positivity. This is something I've really challenged myself to do, which you can read all about in my '5 happy thoughts' posts
Realisation 4: You are enough
"It's easy to feel uncared for when people aren't able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it's hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection of your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles, and worries, that the thought of asking someone else how they are doing doesn't even cross their mind. They aren't inherently bad or uncaring- they're just busy and self-focused, and that's okay. It's not evidence of some fundamental failing on your behalf. It doesn't mean that you're unlovable or invisible, it just means those people aren't very good at looking beyond their own world. But the fact that you are- that despite the darkness you feel you have the ability to share your love and light with others is a strength. Your work isn't to change who you are; it's to find people who are able to give you the connection you need. Because despite what you feel, you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy. You are thoughtful and empathetic. You are compassionate and kind. And with or without anyone's acknowledgement or affection, you are enough"
Realisation 5: You aren't ugly
"It doesn't make sense too call ourselves ugly, because we don't really see ourselves. We don't watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up and silent with our chest falling and rising with our own rhythm. We don't see ourselves reading a book; our eyes fluttering and glowing. You don't see yourself looking at someone with love and care inside your heart. There's no mirror in your way when you're laughing and smiling and happiness is leaking out of you. You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if someone showed you yourself in the moments where you truly are yourself"